I just learned that my coworker that is house hunting just won the bidding war on a place in Melrose. Here’s the list of reactions I went through:
1. That’s awesome - I’m so happy they found something.
2. Man that was fast - I thought I would be first in finding/buying a place.
3. The house is really nice. Why did I not more seriously consider buying it? (It’s a restored Victorian, but about 15% over my top limit and more house than I really need - 4 bedroom).
4. Wait, what about me. This isn’t fair, I’m the one with the looming deadline.
I’ve been operating on less than about 5 hours of sleep for the past few nights (late nights trying to figure this whole thing out plus restless sleeping) so I’m sure this is influencing things. I’m exhausted - mentally, physically, even emotionally. If it was just the house hunting, I’d be totally fine. But it’s not on my terms, so I’ve got the deadline thrown in, plus the financials not where I would like them to be, plus work has been wearing me thin with all the roles I end up playing, to all the other stuff in the mix. I’m just tired.
I’m looking at a multi-family tonight and hopefully another one tomorrow. I’m becoming more comfortable with this scenario than the others but the trick is the financing part. I’m pursuing multiple scenarios so hopefully one fits just right.
2 comments:
Just remember its just a house. You are what makes it home. The right place is out there. And....it doesn't need to be the end all be all perfect place - it doesn't need to be forever even if you want it to be. Go with what feels right and follow that gut feeling. If you don't have that, then walk away (take it from someone who has convinced herself that the wrong place was perfect). As for the looming deadline, what about moving in with a friend for a few weeks if you dont find a place? It's pretty freeing putting everything in storage and just living simply for a while. And also - 4 bedrooms is WAY bigger than you need. Small. I saw go small.
Jill gives excellent advice.
This isn't forever, though shopping for a house (h=home to many of us)is a gut wrenching, very bad, horrible, not good experience when forced into it. Voluntary house hunting is another kettle of fish. Can't think of any Boston connections and even NYC may not have what is needed, even though a tremendous commuting stretch. Just brainstorming here. Wish I could wave that fairy godmother wand and make everything splendid. - M.
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